Ok, so this lecture was everything I needed today. I have been struggling with balancing my masculine and feminine energies for years! I have always had more masculine energy and when I came to that realization, I was trying whatever I could to get in touch with my feminine energy--but it seemed as though I could never get deep enough. I thought maybe if I work on my outward appearance and present as the stereotypical feminine, that my energy would follow suit but nope! I read self-help material and utilized those tips and did not work either. This lecture made me understand how closed off I've been to receiving love and compassion from others. I've always been the giver and never allowed myself to receive. I've definitely let people take advantage of this and have been in many co-dependent relationships (platonic and romantic) and I'm just sick of it because I'm not happy with it. I've gotten better with this over the years and I have been able to set boundaries with friends but I'm still struggling with romantic relationships. I'm wondering if anyone else can relate to what I'm going through/working on. If so, what were some steps you've taken in order to correct this imbalance?
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Hi, Josie. I can relate to this on so many levels. I loved reading your post, so thank you for sharing your thoughts. My experiences have, more often than not, influenced me to rely on myself and no one else in order to avoid being let down or hurt. So, with time, I stopped asking for help and rejected any help that has been offered to me. I had this wall up for a long time and it bothered me, too, because I knew that I was missing out on so many wonderful experiences with good-hearted people who only really had good intentions. So, to work on this, I began asking for really small favors from those that I trusted the most and knew that they most likely would not let me down. As I did this more often, I began to re-learn how to trust, and I also realized that if anyone should let me down, it's okay because I have many others who I've learned won't. Allowing myself to depend on others and to trust others has helped me become intune with more of my feminine energy. It's allowed me to be more vulnerable.
One thing I still struggle with is being overly cautious with wondering what the intentions are of people that I come to meet. So, I'm still working on letting new people into my life and learning to trust my intuition more and picking up on the energy of others.
Thank you so much for sharing that. I’ve never even thought about asking people for small favors as a stepping stone for building trust. Now, that’s actually going to be a challenge for me lol. Usually when I ask for help I immediately offer a payment because I feel like I need to do an equal exchange.
And I definitely get the struggle with being overly cautious about people’s intention. Overall, it’s hard to trust new people. But it sounds like you’re on the right track!
Hey Josie,
I've struggled with this a lot myself, especially with romantic relationships. What did I do? I stopped dating completely and focused on healing that part of myself that didn't feel worthy of receiving. Most of the work dealt with having to unlearn/address those feelings and replacing them with "I am worthy" beliefs.
Also, I practiced just saying "yes, thank you" and fighting that urge to reciprocate or pay back? Not because I'm trying to be selfish but because I want to allow myself to receive without guilt etc. Also, you don't always have to do an equal exchange...sometimes it's your turn to give...sometimes it's your turn to receive. Hope this helps. Love and light.
Thank you for that, those are really good points. Im going to give that a try.
I’ve struggled with the same issue of balancing Masculine and Feminine. its a struggle but learn how to say yes. I’m a theatre lover and went to school and in improv class one of the things we learn is to say yes and go with everything. That practice has helped me allow ppl to give and me being open to receive. I never wanted anybody to hold anything over my head especially in romantic “ships”. Say yes to yourself and it’ll follow outwards
Thank you! And definitely. Since I’ve been receiving y’all awesome advice I’ve been utilizing it and so far it’s been going really well :) I definitely need to say yes more and just go with it. Very true.
I’m on a program by a love coach on this. She’s also very into the masculine and feminine energies. Although I was already engaged when I saw this love coach online, receiving was still the hardest for me but I was also over-giving. It really helped me connect me into my feminine, communicate better, and bring out the empowered masculine in my man. Shoot me a message if you want her info. Integrating the lessons from Om School and from the love coach really brings this masculine-feminine energy concept into full circle for me. ❤️
Thank you! And I’ve never heard of a love coach before that sounds really interestin.
Hi everyone! Thanks For this question. I assume You watched May’s class on “learning to forgive and releasing trauma”. It is entirely about narcissism. And the way to overcome it is self-love, no longer needing any approval from the narcissists in your life. Heal yourself with the soundbowls meditation from your childhood of feeling controlled, overpowered, manipulated, loss of independence or feeling neglected and abandonment in childhood (all of the above is narcissist). It attracts you to these types of people as an adult, still waiting for the approval of your true self you never received in childhood. you must remove yourself from all of the narcissists in your life, and invest your love and time into the universe, yourself and a new world of people. You will attract this when you raise your self worth and put up boundaries against anyone with narcissistic habits. There is no reason to ever fight with them or try to help them. A narcissist will never see it unless they choose to On their own and go through a deep spiritual journey in their own time. As empaths we are highly susceptible to manipulation and criticism, and should only surround ourself with loving and supportive people so that we can flourish and help people who truly want a harmonious exchange of giving and receiving love and help. I realized myself that every one who I have ever been close with was a narcissistic, and had to do a drastic cleansing of my inner circle. When it comes to parents, you must make sure you can not live with them, and if you are in a situation where you have to, just mentally block out their energy-sucking behavior until you can manifest your way out. In a relationship, with a spouse or a very close friend, you must practice self love and living your true purpose in life, so you can see your worth, and no longer feel like you need this person to complete you.
Thank you. Figuring this out takes a great deal of patience and some re-assessment. I feared clearing out my inner circle for what favors I had been granted. That fact alone helped me understand how I viewed those who were close to me. The relationships weren’t healthy. I excused it by “living a little”, acting out as a wild guy and ”learning” from a wise one.